I Really Would Rather Just Stay in Bed!
Do you ever have something happen that just makes your heart really sad? I’m sure we all do, that’s kind of a rhetorical question. There are days for everyone when we just don’t want to get out of bed.
My bigger question is what do you do about it?
How do you react?
It’s a question I’ve been pondering lately….
I always feel like if we have a major “event” happen to us (someone dies, someone moves away, divorce, losing a job, or whatever the case), we have a few of choices.
- We can let it overwhelm us. We can just stay in bed, pull the blankets over our heads and wish that things were different. We can get into a serious state of depression, a dark hole that is really hard to pull our selves back out of.
- We can carry-on the best we can, attend work, school, that sort of thing and just going through the motions of life.
- It can cause of sense of urgency, and force you to change. For example, the event of losing a job (and thus your sense of security), could really push you (out of pure necessity) to get out of your comfort zone and move your life in a new or different direction.
In any of the above situations, it’s important not to try and go through it alone.
I know from my own experiences that having a good support system in place is critical to my over all well being. Whether that support is a family member, a close friend, a counselor, or all of the above. We need to have a safe place to go to talk through our feelings. For me, those people are my family: my mother, sister, daughter, niece and my close circle friends.
Over the last few weeks, I have had one such event happen and I’ve been struggling with a lot of grief, emotion, and tears. I can be just having a regular, normal everyday conversation and all of a sudden my eyes are filled with tears, and my heart is full of emotions.
I need to snap myself out of this. I know it’s important to process, and to feel the emotions, and go through the loss.
I just don’t want to get stuck in them.
I know that this “event” is just more for me to deal with on top of the issues I have already been facing with the stark realization that I am now a mid-lifer, and I am NOT where I want to be. Maybe that is causing me to be even more emotional than I normally would be?
Back in February, I listened to an Audible book by Mel Robbins in the car while I was on a road trip. The book was The 5 Second Rule. I pulled it out and started listening to it again.
This is an amazing book, it makes so much sense, and I LOVE that Mel reads it herself. You get all her extra expression and passion on the subject.
Have you read it?
You really should.
It was just what I needed. I don’t FEEL like doing it, I don’t WANT to carry on, but I have to do it anyway. For myself and my family.
Saturday, as I woke I felt like I needed to get busy and try not to think about it. It actually helped!
Since then, I’ve been forcing myself to get more done. I’ve been keeping my emotions in check a little bit better. I”m doing things with my kiddos, getting back to my blog and my businesses, clearing clutter out of my home and out of my mind.
It’s almost like I’m taking the sadness and uncertainty and using it to push me harder. Rather than giving up, I feel motivated to move through it.
When I don’t feel like doing something is exactly when I need to push myself harder in order to move past it. Maybe I’m going about that the wrong way, but it’s seemed to work in the past.
Sometimes you’ve got to “Fake it, until you Make it“.
Like Mel says – “Why is it so hard to do the little things?” Our minds are designed to stop us from feeling pain, or being in danger at all costs…
So yes I’ve had something happen that shook me up and rocked my world. My mind and my body want to keep me safe and free from pain.
The easiest thing would be to stay in bed and forget everything.
That will not solve anything. That will just make me feel worse.
I have to get my butt in gear and force myself to keep on keeping on. If you haven’t read (or listened) to this book, you really need to. You can get a copy of it here through my link: The Five Second Rule – by Mel Robbins.
I’d love to hear what you think of it
Wish me luck,
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